Let’s face it…
One of the biggest issues entrepreneurs face is rejection. Your job is to sell stuff, and sometimes people will say “no.” If you get enough “no’s,” it can mess with your head—not because you lack the mental toughness, clarity, or focus to get through it. It’s because, believe it or not…
Fear of rejection is hardwired into our DNA
After all, we are a tribal species. We need to belong. Back when we were living in caves, hunting with sticks, and running from saber tooth tigers, our survival depended on belonging to the tribe. There was safety in numbers. So all of us need to feel included…accepted…and valued. That’s perfectly okay, because it’s just who we are. But here’s the thing…In any business that involves sales, you have to be willing to accept and play in the space of rejection. You cannot let fear of refection paralyze you into not taking action.
We’ve ALL faced some form of rejection
You can’t get through life without it. When you were 3 years old, you asked your mom for a cookie. She said “no!” When you were 10, you wanted a pony. Your parents said “no!” You asked somebody you really liked to the dance, and he said “no!” You applied for your first job, and they said “no!” Getting rejected was sad. Disappointing. Maybe even hurtful.
The danger for us as entrepreneurs…
As entrepreneurs, we feel what we’re working on is the single biggest, most important project in the world, because it is our world. If you think about how important your business is to you, naturally you’re going to feel the impact of rejection. Whether you’re going to present to somebody face-to-face in a coffee shop, or you’re going to meet them for lunch, rejection stings. After all, you took the time to ask for the appointment.
They said yes to the meeting, you got on that person’s calendar, they met you somewhere, etc. But here’s the part we forget:
You have to get a lot of “yeses” before you get to the first “no!”
So after all those “yesses,” you meet with them, deliver the presentation, and they say “No thanks. It’s not for me,” and you walk away, dejected, disappointed, and hurt. Or, you do a big hotel meeting, a webinar, or a Facebook Live. Lots of people show up, and very few people buy. “No thanks. It’s not for me.” Experience that enough times, and you might start to doubt yourself…
- “Is this going to work out?”
- “Am I ever going to win at this?”
- “What’s wrong with me?”
Here’s the single most important thing to know about rejection…
Your prospects are NOT REJECTING YOU! They’re rejecting whatever you’re talking about, for any number of reasons. Sometimes…
- They’re rejecting it because they don’t understand
- The timing is wrong for them
- They’re just not the right people for what you’re offering
- It’s simply the place they’re sitting – it might be too hot, too cold, or too distracting
- It’s just where they are in life. They might have too much on their mind. Maybe they left screaming kids are at home, and they just really aren’t present when you’re talking to them
- It’s just their personal bias about your product or company
Rejection is not personal.
It’s almost never about you. So whenever you experience rejection, I want you to ask yourself some questions…Who is your target market? Who they are is as important as whatever it is you’re offering.
For example, if McDonald’s is offering a person like me a hamburger and fries, it’s probably not going to work. It’s just one of my own personal biases. Or if you’re selling Ferraris somewhere that was just leveled by a hurricane, your offer of a “20% off deal on Ferraris,” isn’t going to interest too many people. They have other, bigger stuff on their minds.
But here’s what the bigger part of me (like the bigger part of you) should ask…
- What can I do better?
- What might I do differently so my offer is more attractive to them?
- What might I do to help them understand more clearly exactly what’s in it for them?
Face it. You could very well have the most awesome offer in the world, but the most important question is what might you do differently to explain your offer to them, so they see the value for themselves? That’s really, at the end of the day, what’s going on when they say “no.” In the back of their mind, when they reject your offer, it’s because there’s a disconnect between what you’re saying and what they’re experiencing in their own life.
How might I explain this to them differently in the future?
How did you present it to them in the first place?
Was it via webinar?
Perhaps what you have requires a more physical demonstration.
Instead of doing it on a webinar, maybe you need to do it on a Facebook live. Maybe you’ll need to show them physically how the thing works. How did you do it in the past? Look at your numbers and your metrics.
So often, especially in the beginning phases of business, I see entrepreneurs flip out.
They say, “Man, it’s been six weeks and I haven’t made a sale yet.” They look at their numbers and they’re not very good. They say, “You know, I’ve only had a few people look at my ad. Something must be wrong! I’m doomed!” Be patient. Give it time. It doesn’t mean you’re doomed.
It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re being rejected
You might not make sales overnight. If you do, great. But if you don’t, don’t automatically assume there’s something wrong.
It just means that you need to be a little more patient. You can ask…
- “How might I do this differently,”
- “What might I do to increase this,” or
- “What might I say differently,” or
- “Who might I offer this to?”
But the one question I want you to avoid is… “Why?”When you go to the “why” question, you’re going to a place of victimhood.You’ll start thinking…
- “Why me?”
- “Why not me?”
- “Why isn’t this working?”
“Why” is of the most disempowering places to be when you’re trying to talk about rejection. What will help you get through it, though, is what, how, who, and when. When is the best time to offer this?
So if you ask, “when might I increase my sales?” you might find discover some things sell better at certain times of the year. Asking the “when” question just challenges you to work better in your down months and take advantage of the big months.
So here are three things I want you to remember whenever you’re experiencing rejection…
1. They’re not rejecting you; they’re rejecting your offer.
It’s not personal so stop making it personal. They’re rejecting something about the offer itself. Ask yourself how you might communicate it differently, or what you could do better.
2. Rejection is typically about them.
The question is, “Who might I sell this to? Who might I offer this to?” Get clear on who your target audience is and what makes them tick. What makes them motivated to want to buy?
3. You need to get better at making your offer.
Ask how might I demonstrate or present my offer in a more exciting, effective way—so they can really understand it and see the value
Most entrepreneurs experience rejection when they’re trying to generate leads and prospects. They pester their friends, relatives, neighbors, and co-workers. Hearing “no” from those people closest to us stings the most. These same eager entrepreneurs stalk malls, restaurants, and street corners, trying to engage strangers, talk about their product or service, and turn them into leads and prospects. They drop flyers, business cards, and brochures everywhere they go. And they get LOTS of rejection. So we entrepreneurs need to work on generating prospects, leads, and sales every day, while working through our own challenges regarding rejection.
We need to know who to talk to, how to talk to them, and what to say to demonstrate the value of our offer
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